Thursday, September 29, 2016

Weekly Update 9/29/16

First we want to say thank you for joining us on this journey and praying for us and our future child!

As of right now we are saving money so that we can sign on with our consultants and begin our home study. Those two things total about $4500.00 and we hope to have that by December so that we can send all of our paperwork in and be ready to begin the home study process in January. 

After we are home study ready, we will have to have half or more of our funds to be active. This means that Birthmoms can view our profile and potentially select our family. So we will have to have between $15,000 and $20,000 to become active. Our hope is to be active by the end of Spring. 

We have also began preparing a nursery. We had bought furniture for a nursery from people over the last year. We were able to get a dresser, and chest of drawers. We are in the process of refinishing the furniture and doing any repairs that it needed. 

Our next project is to refinish the dresser and chest of drawers. They currently look like the picture below but I want to refinish them is the same lighter gray color and get rid of the black top on the dresser. 

We used Rethunk Junk by Laura Paint. If you have any furniture you are wanting to redo use this paint!! It is so awesome! It doesn't require any sanding you just spray it down with their prep and wipe it down. On the end table I did two coats one was light and one was dark. The color is Peacock Feather. After that I used a cotton tinted glaze on top and then put tuff top on the top to add the shine and protect it. I am planning to use Driftwood on the dresser and chest of drawers and will post pictures after I finish it. 

Prayer Requests:
-Pray that God would continue to provide the funds that are needed. Over the last week or so we have been given some really cool opportunities and news that will provide some extra income. We have also sold several puzzle pieces from our first fundraiser. (see the puzzle fundraiser tab to view the details)
-Pray for our future Birth mother/family. Pray that she would feel peace in her decision making.

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

One week later!

  • We have officially received our packet for our home study in the mail! We have a lot of paperwork to fill out and a lot of fingerprint cards to get done but then we will officially be ready to begin our home study. The purpose of the home study is to educate, evaluate and prepare us for adoption. This process consists of background checks, health evaluations, paperwork, home visits, interviews, and collecting references.
  • We have also began contacting the two consultant groups that we are interested in working with. A consultant group takes a multi-agency approach which will significantly reduce our wait time. When you sign on with one agency your profile is presented through just that agency but by using a consultant our profile is sent to multiple agencies and could be presented on cases through all of them. The typical wait time is 4-10 months vs years.
  • As of right now we are saving money and looking at different ways that we could fundraise. Adoption is expensive. We have home study fees, background check fees, lawyer fees, agency fees, consultant fees, medical expenses, post placement fees, and travel fees that all have to be paid for in the coming months.  After our home study is complete we will begin applying for grants and having other fundraisers.  
  • The main question we have been asked is how much the process will cost. The average adoption is typically somewhere between $15,000 and $50,000. Our adoption will more than likely be between $30,000 & $40,000.We are fundraising because to be honest, we just don’t have the money and if we waited until we saved the money, it would be years before we were ready! When we started talking about our adoption journey, we were very intimidated by how much we were going to spend. We talked about the cost, thought about it and prayed about it, and felt a peace about moving forward with our adoption regardless of the high expense. We knew from the beginning that God was calling us to adoption and that he was going to provide the money for us to bring our baby home!
  •  The other question we have received the most is about where our baby will come from? In short, we don't know! We know it will be within the United States. It will also be within a state that has adoption friendly laws (meaning that the birth family will sign surrenders within 72 hours of birth that are irrevocable).
 If there are any other questions about our process that you'd like to ask please feel free and we will try to answer them.  

Prayer Requests:
  • Pray for peace of mind about the home study process and gathering the funds.
  • Pray for our future birth family. Our baby could be being formed right now. Pray that God would give the birth mom peace about the decisions she will be/is making.  

Saturday, September 10, 2016

The Begininning

Over the last year we began talking and praying about how we would choose to grow our family. God laid adoption on our hearts before we got married and we knew it was something we would want to do. There are several different ways to go about adoption: foster-to-adopt, adoption through an agency, private adoption through word of mouth, and international adoption are a few of them. We looked into and prayed about most of the options and while they are all wonderful, we feel like domestic infant adoption through an agency is what we are being lead to do. There are many reasons why we chose this and stories about how God has confirmed that that decision is where we are supposed to be right now.

One of our strongest desires through this process is to be able to have an avenue to share Christ with people. Adoption is a part of God's word and we pray that the opportunity will come up for us to be able to get to know the birth family/birth mother of our future child and share Christ's love with them. We want them to know how much God loves them. This birth family/birth mother chose life for her baby when the world is telling her that life is a choice and abortion is ok. 

We are still in the very early stages of this process. Right now, we are just saving money for the adoption expenses and preparing our house for our home study. We hope to begin the home study process sometime early next year. Our desire is to have a baby in our home by late 2017, but we also want this to all be in God's timing. 

Please pray for us as we begin the process. There is a lot of fear that comes with adoption- fear of a failed adoption, fears of others reactions, and fears of not being able to save/fundraise the money to cover the expenses. We need prayers that fears won't stop us from doing what we feel called to do.  

We hope to keep this blog up to date with where we are in the process, prayer requests, and just any other information we may have.